FIONA REILLY: “Four Tips for Effective Listening”

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The gift of being heard is something really precious. Having someone listen attentively to our expression or story is very healing and can enable us find our own understanding, acceptance, balance and joy again. Listening sounds like a very simple thing and indeed it is, yet many of us struggle to listen effectively. Being a good listener requires being present and fully attentive to the other. It is not about offering advice or fixing anything or making the other feel better, it’s simply being there and paying attention.

“Whatever life we have experienced, if we can tell our story to someone who listens, we find it easier to deal with our circumstances.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

Four Tips for Effective Listening

So how might we listen more effectively… there are many things that can help! Below I outline four suggestions that I have found to be fundamental to good listening.

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LIVE BOLD & BLOOM: “12 Of The Most Important Values To Live By”

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What values are important to a life well-lived?

What do you want to be known for? What qualities do you admire in others and work to cultivate in yourself?

And how do those qualities reflect your core beliefs?

Your life values are those that, once you identify them, help you with decision-making and provide the building blocks for your character — specifically the one you want to have.

For example, if one of your top value in life is courage, you’ll likely seek out new challenges so you can act in spite of the fear that comes when you’re faced with the possibility of failure or rejection.

And if forgiveness has recently become one of your values to live by, you’ll want to remind yourself of your new commitment when you’re about to spend time with someone who has hurt you in the past.

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ARIA BELLA: “Why You Need Meditation”

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“The birds chattering, the distant sound of cars. Feeling the sun or breeze on my face, really helping to anchor me in my body as I take in those sensations. Not only does it bring your stress levels down, it allows your body to go into its optimum level for relaxation and healing.”

~Aria-Bella

Meditation is good for the soul, for the whole body and your mind. Go indulge today!

If you want an all-out activity that is going to soothe every single part of you and your senses — go meditate!!  It doesn’t have to be long, hard or full on.  Meditation comes in all shapes and sizes — you just have to find the ones that fit.

A really easy meditation to do is mindfulness — this can be done anywhere — making dinner, washing the dishes, hanging the clothes out.  All it asks you to do is be fully present…

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ELIZABETH RENTER: “7 Ways To Better Listen To Your Intuition”

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Have you ever been in a situation where your “gut feeling” told you one thing, but your rational mind said another?  If you went with your brain rather than your intuition, there’s a good chance you ended up regretting your decision.  Your intuition is the subconscious leader that many people fail to give proper respect to.  But learning to listen to this internal compass could help you make better decisions and live a more fulfilling life.

It’s unconscious reasoning, the guidance that compels you to turn left when all signs may be pointing right.  It’s often the whisper inside that can lead you to the best results possible, if you will just learn to let go and give it a chance.  Intuition is commonly associated with New Age mysticism or a metaphysical way of thinking, but it doesn’t have to be so.  Our intuition was here long before anyone even gave a word to it, and it will be here long after other fad words expire.

Warm up to the idea that you don’t have to control everything.  Life is going to happen whether you overthink it or not.  Relax.”

Whether it’s deciding which job to take, which direction to turn when you’re lost, or how to handle a conflict in your family, intuition sometimes knows better than the rational mind.  The problem is that many of us have buried that little voice so deeply within, we have a hard time hearing or feeling where it is guiding us.

The good news is that your intuition is still there, you merely have to learn to hear it again.

To better listen to your intuition, try:

1.  Meditation:  Spend time in silence, simply listening.

2.  Commune with nature:  Aim to get at least sometime outside every single day.

3.  Creativity:  Tap into your internal artist by drawing, writing, painting, or making music.

4.  Learn to listen:  In general, listen to friends, families, silence, and yourself.

5.  Be body conscious:  Learn to appreciate the little signs and signals from your body, when it tells you it’s tired, joyful, in need of love, or getting sick.

6.  Let go:  Warm up to the idea that you don’t have to control everything.  Life is going to happen whether you overthink it or not.  Relax.

7.  Stay positive:  Being in a good mood boosts participant’s abilities to make intuitive calls in a word game.  So smile!

Working on becoming more intuitive requires you to adopt healthier habits and a healthier mindset.  These are things that are good for your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, no matter your end goal.  And if cultivated regularly, they could lend themselves to better decision making and more happiness overall.

 

 

~adapted via NaturalSociety.com

EARTH DRUM COUNCIL: “Guidelines for Participating in a Drum Circle”

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A drum circle is a community cooperating together to make something greater than the sum of its parts.  That’s why there’s more to a good drum circle than expert drumming.  In music, as with all forms of communication, the silence between the notes is as important as the notes themselves, and listening is as important as voicing.

If you are a novice drummer, watch the skilled drummers.  If you cannot hear what they are doing, play more quietly.  Use fewer notes rather than play every beat.  Leave spaces in your playing so that other drummers will have space to play in.  Using fewer notes will help you keep up speed with the other drummers and dancers, and also allows you to be more creative.  It is all right to get lost.  If you do, stop playing for a while, listen for the basic pulse, and join in with it.  It is not necessary to play something entirely different from everybody else; try playing the same rhythm as other people at least part of the time.  Repetition is an important and integral part of drumming.  Use your eyes as well as your ears to understand what is happening.  Pay attention, look and listen while you play.

If you are an experienced or lead drummer, be responsible.  Listening is even more important when you are the glue holding the rhythm together.  Be aware of the energy of the group.  Add solos only when the existing rhythm is well established.  If you are starting a new rhythm, choose one that others can easily join.  Work with the whole group of drummers and dancers.  Playing with a well rehearsed group is easy.  Playing with a mixed crowd of novice and experienced drummers is more challenging, but it can bring out the best in everyone, and be a lot of fun.

Drums can be classified as having a tone which is low, middle, or high in range.  If you sit close to other people who have drums that have a similar tone and volume to yours, it will help give the rhythms focus and cut down on distractions.

Be aware that bells, claves and shakers cut through the sound of all the other instruments.  That is why they are the timekeepers and the key to most complex rhythms.  These are sometimes called the “guideline” instruments, and they should hold to a steady part rather than “jam”.  If you are a novice drummer, it is good to learn the basic bell and clave parts if you can follow and learn from someone more experienced.  Bells and claves can throw the whole group off if they are out of sync, so when in doubt go back to the basic pulse.

We are all teachers and learners.  Don’t hesitate to ask for help to figure out a rhythm, or to offer help to someone else.

It is customary to ask permission of a drum’s owner before playing it — but don’t be afraid to ask!  If you do not wish to have anyone else play your drum, please put it away or cover it when you are not using it.  If you borrow someone else’s drum, please observe the basics: remove rings before playing hand drums, and return the instrument to where you found it.

Please do not play melodic instruments like flutes and guitars at drum council.  They confine the rhythm instruments to the span of their melody, and can be very distracting.

Do, however, feel free to express yourself with your voice.  Chanting which blends with the rhythm can enhance the overall effect.

Most of all, have fun!  Drumming and dancing are wonderful forms of creative self expression, and the drum council is a great place for us to express ourselves together.

 

 

~via Shift.is